I know yesterday was a little rough for people. If you don’t know, a rapper named, Nipsey Hussle died. He was from the west coast, married with kids, and gave back to the black community in many ways. He was such a good soul and touched many people’s hearts. Someone I knew also died that day, so I figured I would do the only thing I know how… Writing is a good coping mechanism for me. So, here are 5 ways to deal with grief.
1. Give yourself time. I know that people grieving are always told how they are supposed to grieve, but only you can decide that. If the way you deal with it is crying or exercising like crazy, then you do that. The pain doesn’t ever got away, but it does get easier after a certain point. Living with it everyday, waking up and realizing they aren’t here anymore, but cherishing the time you have spent with them. This is why everyone is always told to live in the moment and continue making memories with people. You never know when it will be your last.
2. Talk to someone. One of the hardest things to do in life is to communicate to someone when you are in pain. I understand that. But, in most cases, that is how you can feel better. When you bottle up emotions, you begin to deteriorate from the inside out. The days become meaningless and no one can figure out why you are so down. Then the distancing from people and reality starts to take over. You don’t have to talk to a family member or a friend if you aren’t comfortable, but talk to someone outside your situation. Sometimes talking to someone who doesn’t know you, like a therapist can really go a long way. It’s easier to understand your feelings if you talk about them out loud.
3. Take a breath from social media. We as a society get so addicted to social media that it becomes the normal routine for us. We check it when we first wake up and when we go to bed. Taking a break from it might help you get through the grief. Try not to worry about what everyone else is doing, and just focus on yourself. Take the time to get your mind back together, then re-download the apps.
4. Cope in healthy ways. Here’s what not to do: drink a ton of alcohol to make the pain go away, abuse drugs, or lash out at people. There are a million ways to deal with pain that doesn’t include hurting yourself or others. I know it’s not easy, but if you find healthy ways, that will be better for you in the long run. For example, writing your feelings down, talking about your feelings, exercising, group therapy, extracurricular activities, etc.
5. Don’t do anything drastic. You are going through something serious and the last thing you want to do is make a life-altering decision. Be rational with what you do, and if you do need to make a big decision, talk to someone about it first. The loss of someone can cloud your judgement and cause you to make decisions that you wouldn’t normally make if you were thinking clearly. Once you move to a better state of mind, you may realize that you made a bad choice.
~I hope these tips were helpful if you are going through grief. And even if you aren’t, one day they will be helpful. Cherish the moments you have with someone because one day they will be gone and you will look on it as memories. Make as many memories as possible today, don’t wait until tomorrow~