Yeah…so I’m not about the dating life currently, so this is going to be advice that I hope can be helpful, but I don’t actually know because I have no experience in the relationship department, much less the long distance relationship department. I’m currently listening to my “Love Schmood” playlist to get in that mindset of having to live apart from my significant other that I don’t have and maybe I can actually do this.
I’m going to assume (probably for my own sake) that you guys have already met in person whether it be somewhere you were traveling to and had to eventually leave them or you had to part ways and say, for example, go to different colleges. The first thing you have to realize is that, no, it’s not going to be easy. Relationships are never easy and with the stress of being so far apart from each other adds weight and strain.
The first thing you need to ask yourself and each other is, “is it worth it?” Either do I like this person enough to continue to get to know them from so far away or do I love this person enough to put in the time and effort to keep our relationship alive? If the answer is yes for the both of you, then congrats, communication is key to relationships and the fact that you both communicated that you are willing to show effort means that you are already stronger as a couple.
The next thing is to decide how you want to communicate. Are you going to call/text each other everyday, every other day, once a week? I know with most friendships, you aren’t “required” to talk to each other every day, but it might be different with relationships depending on the person. I’m not saying you need to have a long thoughtful, deep conversation everyday, but sometimes just telling each other how your day was or even saying good morning, have a nice day, and goodnight can go a long way.
Other methods can, of course, include FaceTime, Skype, oovoo (if you still use that, but I haven’t since middle school…) Instagram, or sending cute/funny snaps to each other on snapchat. My point here is that there are a million methods for you guys to talk through, so utilize them! Don’t let your relationship go down the drain because you don’t talk to each other.
A lot of communication from such a far distance can bring up problems, though. Be weary of that. I have problems with my own friends back home sometimes and a lot of it is because we can’t talk face-to-face and sort it out. But, I’ve done it and you can do it too. Just make sure that you call them or FaceTime to solve the problem. It’s a lot easier when you hear each other’s voices or see each other’s faces, that way nothing is miscommunicated.
Last piece of advice. The moments that you do have together, cherish them. Sometimes you don’t know when the next time you’ll see them is and that should make it all the more special. Do stuff that makes the both of you happy, whether that be going to parties, going out to eat, hanging out with friends together, or just staying inside curled up on the couch watching a movie. Make lasting memories that you can look back on and smile about and get excited for the next time you’ll see them again.
Trying to keep up a relationship miles apart isn’t easy, but when you put in the work for it, it makes what you have with that special person so much more beautiful. I hope this was helpful and remember this when you want to give up: